8.15.2013

Dear Daughter, You are not a princess...

 Dear Sweet Girl,

You will hear a lot of lies in this life. You will hear lies from the society and culture around you and because it is made up of humans, you will hear lies from the church. I pray that you are wise and familiar enough with the the Word to be able to recognize false teaching when you encounter it...until then, however, it is my job to do that.

It has become a common thread in Christian culture today to think of women, young ladies, and girls as princesses. And while I love to see you twirl and feel beautiful having a high regard for your value and worth - relishing in the person that God created you to be, and while it is difficult for me to tell you this...

You are not a princess.

Princesses are beautiful. They emphasize their dress and countenance. They find tradition, good breeding, and etiquette to be paramount. A Princess cultivates talents and strengths as a way to display her worth. A Princess lives in a castle away from the lesser peoples. A Princess waits on her Prince...and most of the time in her story, once all of this has happened, a princess lives "happily ever after."  
 
You are a daughter of the King and while in earthly title it may make you a "princess," in spiritual reality it makes you a warrior.

 A Warrior has her own beauty. She has calloused skin on her fingers from holding a bow. Her nails are short and practical. Her hair is pulled away from her face so she can see impending attack. She covers herself in dirt for camouflage. A Warrior puts on armor everyday. She clothes herself in dignity and protects the dignity of those around her.

A Warrior finds justice and truth to be paramount and seeks after those things with every waking breath. She cultivates the fruit of the spirit and uses her skills to display the majesty of the King and His Kingdom. A Warrior knows her strengths, she knows her weakness, she is aware of her worth and it is no more or no less than any other person in service of the King.

A Warrior lives in the camp. She sees the hardships of the village. She stands beside the orphan and the widow and she fights for them. A Warrior stands and speaks for those who have no standing, for those who have no voice.

A Warrior needs no prince to fulfill her mission. A Warrior has her King. She waits on His move. On His voice. On His will.

A Warrior knows that her life here will not be easy - even if she obeys and is loyal to the King, she knows her life is a fight. She knows that her "happily" is in the ever after.

My Girl. You are so much more than a princess. You are God's warrior. You are His hands and Feet. Take heart...and fight.

I love you.



13 comments:

  1. You are awesome. I love this post so very much.

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    1. Thanks so much, Julie. I think you're pretty cool too.

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  2. Anonymous8:09 PM

    Amazing..amazing...amazing! Daddy said that it is "Exceptional!" We love your writing.
    Mom

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  3. love this....will remember it as i begin teaching my little girl in a few days!

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    1. Thank you, Sarah. Just know that you, Roberto, and baby M have been in my thoughts. Praying all is wonderful!

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  4. Renae8:31 AM

    Absolutely wonderful! I am in tears as I read your beautiful, God-given words. Your daughters are blessed to have such a warrior-Mom!!

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  5. WOW!! This is amazing. I have two daughters and I want to teach them to be strong warriors in life. I will be printing this out to keep forever :) thank you so much!!

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    1. I have two girls too - they have been the impetus for writing this. I'm surrounded by pink princesses and some women who whole-heartedly believe these myths to be biblical fact. I don't mind girls who twirl and wear pink (love them in fact), I just want them to be able to recognize that pink twirls are not their calling. Thanks for the encouragement.

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  6. Enjoyed this. Bringing up a daughter is the most amazing yet frustrating journey

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    1. Agreed. Thanks for reading and responding.

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  7. So I just found your blog and it has just given me one more reason to love you Lydia. I shared this with Cory and we both agreed that (a. It was pretty freaking awesome) and b. that we hope that we can be both strong and wise enough to raise Brynnley as a warrior and not a princess as your described. And to be the right role model Warriors that we would want her to be.

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    1. You are too sweet. :) Baby B is so lucky.

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